How to be More Approachable When You’re With the Opposite Sex
I enjoy hanging out with my brother Andre; however, there is a cost to it whenever we do so. You see, my brother and I are one year and nine months are apart. When we were younger it was easy for people to see that I was his big sister. He was shorter than me and he would follow me around where ever I went. Fast forward, Andre is now about 6’1″ about 5 inches taller than me and he has a grown man look – Beard and moustache to prove it. No longer can people tell that we are siblings, in fact, most people mistake us for a couple [Record Scratch]. Yep, you heard right….COUPLE…Here is the cost that I have to pay when I hang out with my brother. People thinking that we are together wouldn’t be a big deal if I was in a relationship but if I’m rocking the “single to mingle” status having my close in age brother standing/sitting/walking with me is a problem.
So I am at an Art Gallery Show with my brother (who is an artist himself). Whenever I go to an event, I always look out for approachable opportunities. Either me being more approachable or me introducing myself to someone. This event was no different. However, I totally didn’t factor in the possibility that my brother would hinder that process until I got there. I tried to break away at times but that didn’t work for long. I sat at the bar and ordered some food, my brother came to join me soon after. While sitting there two guys came to the bar beside me. I looked up, smiled and said hello and the greeting was reciprocated. “Great,” I thought, “so much for an approachable opportunity with my brother around” LOL. So as the men got comfortable and appeared to be sticking around for awhile I thought of a way to turn this situation into an approachable one.
How to Be More Approachable when hanging out with someone of the opposite gender?
This is what I did, I tapped the shoulder of one of the guys and ask “Do you mind taking a picture of my BROTHER and me?”. This was my way of letting him know that the guy you see me with is not my boo. It’s my bro. So any fears that may have prevented you from talking to me before can be dissipated now that you know that he’s my brother.
Did it work? Well, we end up exchanging friendly banter back and forth throughout the night. Was there a link made because of the approach? Not this time; however, “Mission Approachable Opportunity” was a successful one none the less. The more approachable opportunities you encounter the more likely a link can be made 🙂
So I guess having my brother didn’t totally ruin an approachable opportunity. He actually gave me an excuse to ask for the services of this young man which segued into a conversation.
Single Ladies, Have you ever attended an event with your male friend or brother?
Single Men, Have you ever attended an event with your female friend or sister?
Were you able to still create approachable opportunities? If so, how did you do it?
Please comment below. I would love to hear your stories.
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