How do you approach someone who appears to be on their phone?
“I went to an event on Saturday and saw a young lady sitting by herself texting. I wanted to approach her but she seemed unapproachable. How do you approach someone who appears to be using their phone?” – from one of my male friends
- Observe whether they have the phone out before they sense you coming towards them.
- Observe whether they appear to be waiting.
- Observe whether they appear to be by themselves.
“Is anyone sitting here?” – this is a safe question that allows her to look up from her cell phone it also lets you know whether or not she is waiting for someone to join her. Once she accepts your invitation to sit with her. Take a pause, see if she continues to have her phone out. If so, ask her a question about her phone – “Is that a Iphone 4s? How do you like it?” These questions are examples of using the environment to start a conversation. The follow up question is also open ended so that her answer is more than a simple yes or no. Again gauge her responsiveness. If she doesn’t lift up her head to answer your question, then her phone is more interesting then a conversation with you. If that is the case, kindly excuse yourself and go to the refreshment table.